Own Your Story Mindset Series: #1 Your Past Is Powerful
As a storytelling coach, speaker, and empowerment poet, my mission is to empower others to share their stories in a way that can help them create the impact and the income they desire. I want to serve others so that they can get clear and confident on their stories.
To lay the foundation for an effective story, we need to make sure you are in the right mindset to do so. You need to own your story and view it as your greatest asset.
The next several blog posts will all be centered around how to get the proper mindset to OWN YOUR STORY.
Own Your Story Mindset Series: #1 Your Past Is Powerful
Today's installment is all about the different "scripts" or "beliefs" we may have about our past that are either holding us back or moving us forward.
Many people don't share their stories because they don't believe they have value. Or they don't believe they matter. Or they don't believe they are qualified to tell them.
A little tough love, but this couldn't be farther from the truth.
Your past is powerful. Your past is a series of events that have strung together and helped shape you into who you are today. Your path has led you to this very post.
Sometimes we don't want to identify our struggles as "struggles" because we don't want to appear to be a victim. We don't want those negative experiences, misfortunes, or mistreatments to define us.
But the fact is, while they are most certainly not who we are, they are part of us. They have had a role in shaping us into who we are today.
You cannot fully embrace and love yourself as you are today, if you do not stop hating the things that shaped you.
This doesn't mean you have to love them, but you do need to accept them.
Everything you have experienced has brought value to your life. You have learned something from it.
You have overcome things and become stronger, wiser, braver, smarter, and more able to serve others. This is why your story is your greatest ASSET.
You may take your knowledge and lessons for granted because they are so ingrained in you and who you are, but they could influence others in a priceless way.
Owning and admitting to your struggles doesn't make you a victim, it makes you smart.
LIMITING BELIEF: VICTIM MINDSET
To help you get ready to craft some amazing stories and messages that are going to attract, inspire, and influence action, you need to start by tacking your self-limiting beliefs. We all have them but we don't have to submit to them.
Start by telling yourself your stories are worth telling - and believing it.
Say it out loud. "My story is worth telling."
Shrinking away from your story or giving off the vibe that you don't really believe you deserve to be sharing will show. Head up, chest up, speak up.
Everything you have experienced has brought value to your life. You have learned something from it. You have overcome things and become stronger, wiser, braver, smarter, and more able to serve others. This is why your story is your greatest ASSET. You may take your knowledge and lessons for granted because they are so ingrained in you and who you are, but they could influence others in a priceless way.
There are three mindsets you can take when approaching your "script" - the dialog you have in your mind about yourself, your history, and your future.
The Victim thinks as though life is happening to you.
The Surviver feels as though you are always having to fight.
The Thriver is an optimistic, doing mindset that wants to learn, succeed and take charge of their life.
A victim mindset focuses on their weaknesses, complains, blames, makes excuses, resists change, compares, and remains "stuck." If you have overcome your obstacles through grit, seeking solutions, and taking action, you are not a victim. I also charge to you question what aspects of your life and narrative might still be stuck in this mindset.
It is okay to admit that we don't want to take responsibilities for certain things. This is a safe place. Not wanting to face certain trials, relationships, and changes is part of the story as well. But, this exact mindset is also why certain aspects of our stories may seem "stuck" or we, the protagonists, may be spinning in circles. This is the mindset that keeps us from making certain "edits" in our story that are long overdue.
A Creator mindset is an empowering mindset. It leans more towards the Surviver and Thriver mindsets because even in the “Surviver Space,” you are still fighting to make your way past your trials.
Again, I want to be a voice of encouragement for you. It is okay if you are still in the "fight" mindset but I challenge yourself to ask what shifts you can make to your life and your narrative that put you in an even more intentional place of control, or thriving. Creators and Thrivers look to see multiple options and make wise choices. They assume the role as author. The blame for the struggles is removed from other characters or from the "setting" of the story and is replaced with a sense of self-responsibility and empowerment.
These mindsets may have changed and varied throughout the different phases and stages in your life and story. What mindsets were you in when you were experiencing hardship and struggle? What mindsets were you in when you experienced peaks and highs?
Getting your mindset right when it comes to recounting your story will determine how you write it and share it.
Shifting to a creator mindset will also be the determining factor in whether you are able to shake off the sense that admitting you've struggled makes you weak. There is nothing stronger than owning your struggles and using them to empower others.
Until next time...